I’ve been thinking about ways to encourage my kids to be more responsible and self-reliant. Someone mentioned using responsibility incentive systems, but I’m not really sure what that means or how it works. Has anyone tried this with their kids? How exactly does it help them become more independent? I’d appreciate any insights or experiences you can share. Thanks!
I tried a responsibility system with my kids a while back. It was pretty straightforward. They had a list of tasks to do each day and week. Completing them earned points they could trade for stuff they wanted.
It took some adjusting, but it worked out well. My 12-year-old started doing things on her own without me asking. She even came up with new tasks she could do.
The system helped them understand what needed to be done around the house. They learned to manage their time better too. Now they handle most of their responsibilities without the system.
I started using a responsibility system with my kids when they were around 10 and 13. It took some trial and error, but it really helped them become more independent over time.
We had a chart on the fridge with daily and weekly tasks. They’d earn points for completing chores without being reminded. Those points could be used for things they wanted, like having a friend over or picking the movie for family night.
At first, they were all about the rewards. But after a while, I noticed they started taking pride in being responsible. My older one even started suggesting new chores she could do.
It wasn’t always smooth sailing. There were times when they lost interest or complained. But sticking with it and adjusting as needed really paid off. Now they’re teens and handle most of their responsibilities without the system. 
I’ve been using a simple system with my kids for about a year now. It’s not perfect, but I’ve seen some good changes.
My 10-year-old has started doing some things without me asking, like putting away laundry or helping set the table. It’s not huge, but it shows she’s thinking about what needs to be done.
We keep it pretty basic. There’s a list of daily stuff they need to do, and they get points for finishing tasks. They can use those points for things they want, like extra TV time or picking our weekend activity.
It was all about the rewards at first, but now I think they feel a bit proud when they finish their tasks. It’s been cool to see how they’ve grown more independent over time.
We’ve been using a responsibility system at our house for a few months now. It’s not perfect, but it’s definitely helped my kid become more independent.
I noticed my 11-year-old started taking initiative with some tasks without being asked. Like emptying the dishwasher or feeding the dog. It’s small stuff, but it shows they’re thinking about what needs to be done.
We keep it pretty simple. There’s a list of daily and weekly tasks, and completing them earns points. Those points can be used for things like extra video game time or a special outing.
It’s been interesting to see how it’s evolved. At first, it was all about the rewards. Now, I think there’s some pride in being responsible too.
I’ve been trying a simple chore system with my 5-year-old. Some days it works great, other days not so much.
I’m curious about how others handle it when kids lose interest or refuse to do tasks. Do you just let it slide or try to enforce it somehow? And how do you keep them motivated long-term?
We use stickers on a chart right now, but I worry that might not work forever. Anyone have experience with how these systems change as kids get older? I’d love to hear what’s worked (or not worked) for others!